What is Acceptance?

[JustInJapan]

Alright, i want this thread to be pretty deep, so ill start out. I read post dating back on this site from 2003 about foreigners in Japan-who lived in Japan for a at least a decade or more and find it impossible to be ACCEPTED. But exactly what is acceptance to everyone? Excuse my ignorance also for i have not lived in Japan for more then 2 years.

So i just wanted to know and if i could get examples of what exactly to you is being Accepted is by the Japanese people?

Thanks.


Sincerely, Justin

[Uhhuh35]

I lived in Japan from 94-97 and I found a few Japanese friends whom I thought had "accepted" me. Acceptance meaning not being treated like a gaijin. I figured I was accepted when they talked to me just like any other Japanese, not better, not worse.

[akatsuka]

i think it depends on the environment you are in and the lifestyle you lead. I was only in Japan for just over a year, but found a few friends that 'accepted' me for me, and didnt really think of me as a gaijin, but just as a friend. These people were generally people who had either lived abroad previously.Of these people, most had lived abroad previously. I think this helps. I found loads of people who just wanted to speak to be because I was foreign or because they wanted to practise English etc, and these people rarely had lived in another country or had much contact with foreigners.

However, I was only there for a short period, so perhaps this effected the type of people I met..!?

[Neo-Rio]

I don't want to be "accepted" as one of them. The Japanese like me because I'm not like them, nor do I want to be.

[JustInJapan]

I don't want to be "accepted" as one of them. The Japanese like me because I'm not like them, nor do I want to be.

Nice

[canman]

We will never be accpeted as "one of them" because we never will be "one of them". But I like people to take me for who I am, a Canadian living and working in Japan, trying to do my best at whatever I do. I also find that people who have been abroad are a lotmore accepting of me and my ways, but that is just because they have first hand experience.
I can't speak for others on this board, but as white foreigner, I will always be singled out and treated differently. Is that good or bad depends on the situation. Sometimes it works in your favour and sometimes it doesn't.
But I think you will drive yourself crazy thinking about a subject like this.

[Taro Toporific]

... i want this thread to be pretty deep, so ill start out....

Did you say "deep"?
Click to get "deep".

"I'd never want to be part of a club that would admit me as a member."
--Groucho Marx

[Neo-Rio]

Thank you Taro, that basically sums up my feelings as well.

The only other thing I can say is that I tried the assimilation thing for a number of years, and then came to understand why the Japanese like us so much.

[dimwit]

Well if you want to be accepted by him



I would suggest that you start smoking, all night drinking so that your breath smells like you are eating someone's poo. Also don't take vacations, play pachinko in lieu of any real hobby or interest, and have a good fetish pornography collection that you are willing to share. Oh, all that and be Japanese.

To be accepted by them



Master the art of sticking your finger up other people's assholes, have an encyclopedic knowledge all the locations in Final Fanstasy and special attacks of Dragonball characters. Oh and be Japanese.


To be accepted by her



Er... why if you are not Boothe would you want to be popular with her?

To be accepted by her,


Act like a dangerous foreigner because that is precisely what she is looking for.

And finally to be accepted be him


Be a dangerous foreigner and he can be all happy for having had the honor of ridding the streets of one.

[Greji]

To be accepted by her



Er... why if you are not Boothe would you want to be popular with her?

Depends on how many goats she owns!

To be accepted by them

Just possession, or better yet, non-possession of a gaijintorokusomeisho, will make you the hit of their day!

[JustInJapan]

so much for deep! bwahaaahahahah:p