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Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:Japan: how do you integrate yourself?
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:It's not like I'm trying to become Japanese or anything. That's just mission impossible..
But there are some situations(like those I described) where you seem like a douche if you don't know how to act.. And I don't want to be that guy
Cyka UchuuJin wrote:no matter what you do, you will be that guy in the eyes of the japanese.
fact.
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:1. How to deal with compliments?
Honestly, I still don't know. I've tried three different solutions. 1) Say "thank you", 2) Say "I know", 3) Ignore.
maraboutslim wrote:If you're interested in "integrating" yourself into Japanese society, surely you should have noticed that the Japanese choose 4) deny/reject it. Either say "nah, i'm not so good" type comment or some other sort of self-deprecating comment that shows you don't see yourself as anything special.
Even if you are not really that humble, you're supposed to fake it dude.
;)"Yeah, I've been always awkward toward women and have spent pathetic life so far but I could graduate from being a cherry boy by using geisha's pussy at last! Yeah!! And off course I have an account in Fuckedgaijin.com. Yeah!!!"
Iraira wrote:Agree, however, it's hard to put on a fake humbleness regarding some of the crap you get complimented for.
"Wow, you are very good with hashi"
"Yeah, I got a silver medal in the 2002 Oympics for artistic chopstick manipulation, why with a pair of chopsticks, I can grab ahold of and drag a fruit fly around by it's tiny exoskeleton penis, wanna see?"
I mean, how am I supposed to be humble to a question like that? Stab the questioner in the eye with the chopsticks and say, "nah, I'm not so good"?
Christoff wrote:sarcasm will not help you fit in as the japanese have not developed a taste or understanding of it.
FG Lurker wrote:I've never wanted to integrate here. It's much, much better to be a gaijin outside Japanese society than it is to try to integrate.
maraboutslim wrote:If you're interested in "integrating" yourself into Japanese society, surely you should have noticed that the Japanese choose 4) deny/reject it. Either say "nah, i'm not so good" type comment or some other sort of self-deprecating comment that shows you don't see yourself as anything special.
Even if you are not really that humble, you're supposed to fake it dude.
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:3. Does The Law of Jante apply to Japan?
Yokohammer wrote:Be different, and enjoy it.
Yokohammer wrote:If you integrate ... yes.
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:I know that I am always going to be different, and believe me: I am enjoying it! But that doesn't mean I can't adapt A LITTLE?
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:I only asked question 1 because I want to know how I can appear like a more likeable person.
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:And question 2 is something that I want to know, because I don't like misunderstandings..
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:Hmm, thanks for your reply!
The friend-thing really is tricky. But then again, it is a bit easier to describe people under a single word, than for instance saying "a guy I know" :P
Ikemen-of-d00m wrote:Knowing how to bow or how to use honorifics perfectly may be a bit too much, but personally, I wouldn't be able to enjoy life in Japan nearly as much as I can now, if it weren't for my language skills. Knowing how to communicate is essential in my opinion. It is boring as hell to only hang around in bars/communities were English speakers and gaijin hunters are waiting for you...
Iraira wrote:Agree, however, it's hard to put on a fake humbleness regarding some of the crap you get complimented for.
"Wow, you are very good with hashi"
"Yeah, I got a silver medal in the 2002 Oympics for artistic chopstick manipulation, why with a pair of chopsticks, I can grab ahold of and drag a fruit fly around by it's tiny exoskeleton penis, wanna see?"
I mean, how am I supposed to be humble to a question like that? Stab the questioner in the eye with the chopsticks and say, "nah, I'm not so good"?
Samurai_Jerk wrote:While I'm certainly not into the gaijin bar scene and do think that learning the language has helped make life here a lot better, overall I've found that the better my Japanese gets the less interest I have in speaking with Japanese people.
maraboutslim wrote:FWIW, on the chopstick thing, you could just say, "yeah, there are a lot of chinese restaurants back home..." and then the japanese might feel stupid.
...how do you integrate yourself?...
maraboutslim wrote:"nihongo jouzu desu ne,"
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