HELP!-any Peruvian-Japanese experience?!

[vir-jin]

Today I met this peruvian girl at university and when I asked her where she would go for vacation she just collapsed. I know she hasn't been home for a long time and I know how bad her nerves were during the entering exams. but nothing compared to now. I tried to talk to her what made everything but worse, she is half japanese what makes it even complicated. There is a professor responsible for all the foreign students but he usually ignores when somebody has problems. last year a korean girl committed suicide, though they knew how her condition was. this university sucks!

any suggestions? I need adult experience, please! Any experiences with Latin American culture?

[GuyJean]

Today I met this peruvian girl at university and when I asked her where she would go for vacation she just collapsed.

'Collapsed', meaning fainted? Is she ok now? In the hospital?

Chicken soup, red wine, a valium, and Shiatzu massage usually do me pretty well when I'm stressed. That, or jogging...

Take her to a Peruvian/South American restaurant, let her talk for awhile. Remember; empathy works for women - not advice.

GJ

[AssKissinger]

last year a korean girl committed suicide, though they knew how her condition was. this university sucks!

What? Are universities responsible for more than just providing educations these days?

[Andocrates]

I don't quite understand your question. But if you just met her today she could be flaky. Ask around about her before you get too involved.

[Taro Toporific]

Today I met this peruvian girl at university and when I asked her where she would go for vacation she just collapsed....I need adult experience, please! Any experiences with Latin American culture?

I've got a handful of Ecuadorians and Peruvians working for me. In particular, one Peruvian OL who did all keyboard-entry work for me was damn unassuming and meek. She had to be.

That was because she has been exploited at the office by 1/2 wages compared to Japanese and by her own family in Peru. She was sending more the half her wages back home to Peru and they just wanted more money...she never got to travel home very ofter EXCEPT to bring washing machines and TVs every couple years.

I bet this girl crying cause she want to be home for Christmas but her family wants her money, not her.

WOT to do?
Make sure she gets invited to Christmas dinner, has a Christmas date or something. Be sure to keep an eye on her Christmas Day when there is nothing for her to do (Christmas Eve there are many church-ish things going on for Latinos here to be busy with). At the least give her a call better yet invent something to do X-mas day that you need her help. Asking a person for help when they actually are in need will get themselves out of themselves.

[Lifer]

I agree with Double T and would go even further with the religious aspect. As many Latinos are strongly religious, introducing her to a local church may make a huge difference. Of course it'd be better if the minister has some experience with Latinos.

Good Luck!

There is a professor responsible for all the foreign students but he usually ignores it when somebody has problems. last year a korean girl committed suicide, though they knew how her condition was.

And Japanese wonder why so many foreigners think they're such cold hearted pricks... I've watched years of school "counselors" do the same, and was glad when our school finally decided to get a real psychologist to take care of the kids.

[Skankster]

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thats an an emotional realm i have never dealt with but I can tell you where the Peruvian restaraunt and the Peruvian store is in Gotanda.

Take her shopping and buy her dinner (seafood platter is great there)

it is on the Mos Burger side of Gotanda.
Cross the street toward Mos and BigEcho Karaoke and then keep along the big street on the left. Before the hill. First corner on the right two doors down on the left is the restarauntt.
If you keep straight the second or third building on the right has the store.
Both have signs.

Tell her god loves her or something. That might cheer her.

[vir-jin]

Today I met this peruvian girl at university and when I asked her where she would go for vacation she just collapsed....I need adult experience, please! Any experiences with Latin American culture?

I've got a handful of Ecuadorians and Peruvians working for me. In particular, one Peruvian OL who did all keyboard-entry work for me was damn unassuming and meek. She had to be.

That was because she has been exploited at the office by 1/2 wages compared to Japanese and by her own family in Peru. She was sending more the half her wages back home to Peru and they just wanted more money...she never got to travel home very ofter EXCEPT to bring washing machines and TVs every couple years.

I bet this girl crying cause she want to be home for Christmas but her family wants her money, not her.

WOT to do?
Make sure she gets invited to Christmas dinner, has a Christmas date or something. Be sure to keep an eye on her Christmas Day when there is nothing for her to do (Christmas Eve there are many church-ish things going on for Latinos here to be busy with). At the least give her a call better yet invent something to do X-mas day that you need her help. Asking a person for help when they actually are in need will get themselves out of themselves.

ok. she's got a monbusho scholarship but never money. think that family thesis works out.when another student asked her about christmas she went white and tried to explain what christmas was like. she was absolutely serious about it and I was so stupid and insensitive and said my family are buddhists. she will never believe I need her to go to church with me. just talked to the associate professor but his strategy is not convenient at all.he wants me to leave the problem to her architecture departements. I heard the most students at geidai suffer mental demands at the latest in their 2nd MA. she will never survive the next year! No CHANCE!
Am I to blame that I can see sexual harassment, collapsing girls more often than the other fg's?- those Japanese girls in the last throes of death! just move, push, spit, WHATEVER. Or am I really oversensed?Whatever...
I somewhere got a cd of misa creollia, hope she won't collapse again. I probably won't be there to catch her that time. I know there's a spain guy in the design departements. I really really REALLY hope he is lonely too. I might be the worst babysitter she could ever get

THANKS THANKS THANKS!
Taro, you really are the source of experience among the fg party. That was, again, immediate help!

[vir-jin]

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thats an an emotional realm i have never dealt with but I can tell you where the Peruvian restaraunt and the Peruvian store is in Gotanda.

Take her shopping and buy her dinner (seafood platter is great there)

it is on the Mos Burger side of Gotanda.
Cross the street toward Mos and BigEcho Karaoke and then keep along the big street on the left. Before the hill. First corner on the right two doors down on the left is the restarauntt.
If you keep straight the second or third building on the right has the store.
Both have signs.

Tell her god loves her or something. That might cheer her.

Skankster, I never gonna find it. But I have no choice.
could you tell me the name of that place again? I will take her there tomorrow to eat tons of seafood. sigh! maybe they have a webpage....
anyways, thanks! she will be very very happy about your help! she better should!

[GuyJean]

my skills in reading a map are limited. whats the name of that place again?

Print out a map from Yahoo:
http://www.mapion.co.jp/c/f?grp=all&uc=1&scl=25000&el=139%2F43%2F38.617&pnf=1&size=500%2C500&nl=35%2F37%2F22.453
Tell her you 'need' her help to find a restaurant..

GJ

[Mulboyne]

Skanster's direction's are perfect. I can't remember the name but I walk that way every day so I'll look if you don't get an answer.
If you are at Gotanda JR station, turn left when you get through the ticket gates and you will see the Big Echo he mentions across the (wide) road. If you keep that on the right (going in front of Excelsior and Aoyama Shoji) as you walk up the hill then you take the first right he mentions.
There is another Peruvian on bento.com but I haven't been there.
Romina (Yotsuya - Peruvian). 3226-6608.
Brilliant Peruvian food and drinks at relatively inexpensive prices. Try their vanilla flan for dessert, if you still have room. There's also a big lunch menu. (Avoid Sunday nights if you don't like big crowds.)
Yotsuya 1-7-27, Central Yotsuya Bldg. 2F. Open 5-11pm. Closed Wednesdays.

[Mulboyne]

my skills in reading a map are limited. whats the name of that place again?

Print out a map from Yahoo:
http://www.mapion.co.jp/c/f?grp=all&uc=1&scl=25000&el=139%2F43%2F38.617&pnf=1&size=500%2C500&nl=35%2F37%2F22.453
Tell her you 'need' her help to find a restaurant..
GJ

Good idea. It is actually where the figure "13" is written above "Gotanda" in hiragana in the centre of the the map on GuyJean's link. The Peruvian embassy has a consulate nearby too.
http://www.cpetokio.org/

[vir-jin]

my skills in reading a map are limited. whats the name of that place again?

Print out a map from Yahoo:
http://www.mapion.co.jp/c/f?grp=all&uc=1&scl=25000&el=139%2F43%2F38.617&pnf=1&size=500%2C500&nl=35%2F37%2F22.453
Tell her you 'need' her help to find a restaurant..
GJ

Good idea. It is actually where the figure "13" is written above "Gotanda" in hiragana in the centre of the the map on GuyJean's link. The Peruvian embassy has a consulate nearby too.
http://www.cpetokio.org/

thank you so much! I wish you could have seen how depressed and shattered she looked. She was so happy when I begged her to help me with the menu in that restaurant. my god! I travelled half the world since I was a child and if she hadn't been that depressed she would have read the words GIGANTIC LIE deep in my face.
I'll send happy paellia faces!

[Marvin Feltcher]

Taro, perhaps you can help out here...There's a fantastic Spanish daily newspaper printed in Japan, but I can't remember the name of it, nor where it's published/circulated.
Inside, there may be information about somewhere this woman could find professional help if she needs it. If not, the editors may know of something and it could prove worthwhile calling them.

I've just remembered, the Tokyo Metropolitan Government also has/definitely had before Blinky a service called Himawari, which was basically a huge list of foreign language-speaking physicians in the capital. The TMG may also be able to help out.

[Skankster]

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Youll find it, man.

I only know the place thru my zen powers but If you print out that map it is on the Higashi-Gotanda 1-12 block.

the police is on the corner as you head toward the restaraunt. Ask them.
Im tellin ya---- the seafood platter is REALLY GOOD.

[Captain Japan]

Wakaranai is a monthly mag put out by Mario Castro. He's Peruvian. Check it out on the web here:

http://www.wakaranai.info

[Taro Toporific]

[Captain Japan]

Wakaranai is a monthly mag put out by Mario Castro. He's Peruvian. Check it out on the web here:

http://www.wakaranai.info

Damn, Captain ya beat me to the punch.
Actually, the Captain and I fight over (share) the free copies of all the prined gaijin publications we can snag here in Tokyo. We like to pretend we are reading the Spanish and Portuguese ones while we're hanging out at sidewalk cafes.

I ran into Mario last Friday. He gave me the Nov. issue. Taro, if you're interested it has your name on it.

[vir-jin]

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Youll find it, man.

I only know the place thru my zen powers but If you print out that map it is on the Higashi-Gotanda 1-12 block.

the police is on the corner as you head toward the restaraunt. Ask them.
Im tellin ya---- the seafood platter is REALLY GOOD.

Skankster,

I printed your description, the map, mulboynes description.
the only problem is, she didn't turn up today. I left a letter on her desk. I hope she will turn up on monday. I really hope she is ok.

[vir-jin]

[vir-jin]

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Youll find it, man.

I only know the place thru my zen powers but If you print out that map it is on the Higashi-Gotanda 1-12 block.

the police is on the corner as you head toward the restaraunt. Ask them.
Im tellin ya---- the seafood platter is REALLY GOOD.

I found it, but it was closed. There is another one around the corner. Think you saved her christmas anyway. she even got christmas panettone there- the very last one. the owner of the place was somebody she had met in lima years ago. That is what I call success! Thanks a lot!

[yakinoumiso]

Well done Vir-jin.

I hope Santa was good to you this year, it sounds like you earned it...

[vir-jin]

Well done Vir-jin.

I hope Santa was good to you this year, it sounds like you earned it...

you can bet he was- look at that christmas smile- my present :P