SHE Proposed|I'm saying NO

[GomiGirl]

You are off the hook.

She is a weirdo - a healthy sex life is a part of any good relationship IMHO. How is it disgusting? *shakes head*

[American Oyaji]

Actually sparkle,
at this point, I would point out to her that THAT behaviour, that flipflopping is why you could never trust her. And now tell HER its over and do not contact you anymore.

Ill bet that wont sit too well with her.

[mr. sparkle]

You are off the hook.

She is a weirdo - a healthy sex life is a part of any good relationship IMHO. How is it disgusting? *shakes head*

Gomi, on the phone, she seemed more than OK with the healthy sex life, even looking forward to trying stuff she had not done in the past.

The freak out came by bringing it up again. It underscored how important my sex life is to me. I think I just scared her by laying down some truth.

I'm glad I was able to give her a reality check, she probably needs to find a better way to find happiness than crushing the hopes of a well meaning gentleman.

[mr. sparkle]

That girl has issues! Her attitude about sex makes me think she was molested as a kid or something.

I asked her that very question. She said, "No WAY!" I said, "Are you SURE?"

Plus, it's obvious it makes her pussy wet to reject you and have you come back for more. Block her fucking email man.

No doubt. Blocking Shields ON at full-force.

[mr. sparkle]

Actually sparkle,
at this point, I would point out to her that THAT behaviour, that flipflopping is why you could never trust her.

You mean Flip Flopping on being cool with "trying new things" and Newlywed Sex and all that, and then being uptight about it the next day? Yeah, I'd buy that.

Dude, the whole first paragraph of the email regarding the trust and honest issues was glossed over, it was the sexy part that got her attention.

Worse than flipflopping is the unwillingness to communicate her problem with me. I don't like arguments and feel that most things can be talked out without all the drama much more easily. Especially if you are from two different cultures and languages, you need to communicate even more!

And now tell HER its over and do not contact you anymore. I'll bet that wont sit too well with her.

Oh no, I won't do that. Read what she wrote. I am not to contact her. I'm OK with that. I'm a little disappointed I wasn't able to put AK's plan into action though. That would've been great.

[American Oyaji]

Oh no, I won't do that. Read what she wrote. I am not to contact her. I'm OK with that. I'm a little disappointed I wasn't able to put AK's plan into action though. That would've been great.

Sparkle-dude. Take the wind out her sails by contacting her and tell her that. She needs to end this on the low end. She is a control freak.

[Tsuru]

Oh no, I won't do that. Read what she wrote. I am not to contact her. I'm OK with that. I'm a little disappointed I wasn't able to put AK's plan into action though. That would've been great.

Any contingency plans for when she contacts you?

I dare you to ignore all of her future emails and/or phone calls.

[FG Lurker]

Sparkle-dude. Take the wind out her sails by contacting her and tell her that. She needs to end this on the low end. She is a control freak.

Are you insane?



He should never contact her again, and if she contacts him he should ignore.

[james]

Any contingency plans for when she contacts you?

I dare you to ignore all of her future emails and/or phone calls.

well i triple dog dare you seriously though, just unhook that bitch like you would a trailer full of toxic waste.

[mr. sparkle]

[Samurai_Jerk]

Mr. Sparkle,

Man, I haven't been able to read all of these posts because I hate to see a fellow man being such a pussy in a situation like this. So I'm sure some of the things I mention have already been covered.

If you were a 21 year-old kid I could understand, but there is no excuse for the kind of but-what-ifs I'm reading here for any guy over 25. You should cut off all contact with this chick. As long as you have anything to do with her it will continue to mind fuck you. Nothing good can come out of even a long distance plutonic relationship with her. Having sex with here would be a disaster. She probably got knocked up by some other GuyJean ... I mean Gaijin;) ... and wants to frame you.

On a more general note, stop flying halfway around the world for booty calls. That's some sorry shit. It's one thing if you happen to be going to Timbuktu or where ever and call an old flame up for some natsukashii lovin' or if you know some rich chick who says, "Hey, I'll buy you a plane ticket to the Greek Islands and let you stay in my villa as long as you lay some pipe". But going to a galaxy far far away just for a little trim gets you nothing but a lack of respect from a woman.

The last thing I'll say is don't date a woman with kids.

[kamome]

Sparkle, if you feel happier in your gut and relieved now that she's out of the picture rather than in the picture, that's all the guidance you need.

[mr. sparkle]

[GuyJean]

[FG Lurker]

I suppose it will be difficult to press the Delete key without being able to say:

Remember that Kenny Rogers song from the radio when you were a kid?

"You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em / Know when to walk away and know when to run."

Now is the time to run.

[mr. sparkle]

Remember that Kenny Rogers song from the radio when you were a kid?

"You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em / Know when to walk away and know when to run."

Now is the time to run.

I didn't see the last line until I re-read it.