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wagyl wrote:I would visit the Gunma site during office hours, for a start. I know that is a hassle (especially in summer!!) but a surprise face-to-face may be enough to sort out what he plans for his future. At least do this before involving the police (and I don't know what basis you would have involving the police because I don't think "he won't return my calls" will be enough to get them off their seats)... just think how you would feel if you had been passively avoiding someone for a couple of months and they turned up with the cops all of a sudden.
As to your worst case scenario: that all depends on what kind of agreement or arrangement you have between you, and how well you have documented it. Might he play it swift and charge you for storage of PR materials and stuff like that? Those are the sorts of things for you to think about.
chokonen888 wrote:...if this whole thing isn't about money, I have no idea what it is about...
wagyl wrote:K, this moves things on a stage. I would avoid all blame apportionment, and just accept that this relationship is no longer viable for either of you. I would sort out a time to go and collect everything you need that is at his place and square off the accounts.
In her final book, Neurosis and Human Growth, Karen Horney laid out a complete theory on the origin and dynamics of neurosis. In essence, neurosis is a distorted way of looking at the world and at oneself, determined by compulsive needs rather than by a genuine interest in the world as it is. She proposes that it is transmitted to a child from his or her early environment. She states that there are a large number of ways this can happen
wagyl wrote:OK, this is advice you haven't asked for but you are getting it anyway. Trying to understand the neurosis comment, a concept developed in German by Freud, whose theories are regarded as possibly accurate for fin-de-siecle Jewish bourgeoisie in Vienna but not terribly accurate for any other cultures, where he is looking at it through a Japanese filter and you are looking at it through an American filter, will have no positive outcome. Whether the neurosis story is true or bullshit, the final outcome either way is that for whatever reason this guy no longer wants to be doing business with you, and you now feel the same because there is no effective communication between you. Do what you can to divert the other guy thinking about you being a person at fault here, by not raising the issue of fault at all. Strictly business, a clean break. Either he buys your part of the partnership, you buy his (if these part shares are worth anything), or you split things somehow. Being drawn into a blaming match is not going to make things easier, and I am guessing but I don't think it will make the financial side of this split any better either. Doing this without burning any bridges is the aim.
Samurai_Jerk wrote:ノイローゼ might literally mean neurosis but he probably just means he's been extremely stressed out because ofyouthe situation to the point that he can't deal with it. That's how the term is generally used in my experience. Not knowing anything about you or how you do business it's hard to say whether or not his feelings are justified but he obviously isn't handling this in a professional manner.
wagyl wrote:Good one. I suggest one amendment:Samurai_Jerk wrote:ノイローゼ might literally mean neurosis but he probably just means he's been extremely stressed out because ofyouthe situation to the point that he can't deal with it. That's how the term is generally used in my experience. Not knowing anything about you or how you do business it's hard to say whether or not his feelings are justified but he obviously isn't handling this in a professional manner.
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wagyl wrote:Good one. I suggest one amendment:Samurai_Jerk wrote:ノイローゼ might literally mean neurosis but he probably just means he's been extremely stressed out because ofyouthe situation to the point that he can't deal with it. That's how the term is generally used in my experience. Not knowing anything about you or how you do business it's hard to say whether or not his feelings are justified but he obviously isn't handling this in a professional manner.
Weasel words help society operate more smoothly.
chokonen888 wrote:He called at like 11:30pm last night while I was passed out....returned the call at noon today and no answer.
Sent an e-mail yesterday asking him to ship an item to a customer who was in urgent need of it....and asking him what he wants to do with a custom item he ordered and (months ago) said was urgent. No replies to the e-mail at all.
One of his friends I had ask him to contact me said "He was really upset at you but I don't know why??"
I still have no idea WTF he's upset about...
Samurai_Jerk wrote:chokonen888 wrote:He called at like 11:30pm last night while I was passed out....returned the call at noon today and no answer.
Sent an e-mail yesterday asking him to ship an item to a customer who was in urgent need of it....and asking him what he wants to do with a custom item he ordered and (months ago) said was urgent. No replies to the e-mail at all.
One of his friends I had ask him to contact me said "He was really upset at you but I don't know why??"
I still have no idea WTF he's upset about...
Ever bag any random hos in his neck of the woods?
chokonen888 wrote:If anyone cares, it seems to be what I thought. He took a lot of heat from a customer over the shitty delivery time and another customer over quality issues of another brand/product we already dropped months ago.....but of course since I'm the one that introduced the products to him, the blame for his loss of face is all on me. (Though like I originally mentioned, been at this with him 4 years..this type of shit is nothing new and I am always warning customers about the possibility of shipping delays when they place orders.)
Samurai_Jerk wrote:Sounds like this guy doesn't have the sack to do business in the real world.
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