Adultery prevention month

[tickedoffinchiba]

Hi,
I'm new to this board and I'm badly in need of advice. I've just discovered that my Japanese wife has found herself a (fat, broke but younger) gaijin lover in Thailand. Ever so quietly, she's funded the guy's flight to Japan for a week or so of guess what. And probably temple visits, too. I'd very much like to stay married to my wife, and I think this is just an.. um.. mid-life thing that will blow over if I can keep this guy away from her.

I have the guy's picture and know exactly when he's arriving at Narita, and there is a temptation to meet him in the reception area for a fis.. sorry face-to-face. (But no, I'm not like that, I keep telling myself.) Does anyone know if there's a minimum amount of money someone visiting Japan might be asked to prove he has on arrival at Immigration? Is there anything i can (legally) do to encourage Immigration to pay special attention to him? All advice welcome.

[GomiGirl]

Why are you mad at him and not your wife?

Is he just coming for a visit?
Are you sure he is her lover?
Why did she take a lover?
Did she meet him over the internet or did she go there for a visit?

BTW welcome to FG. You sound like you fit the profile for a fucked gaijin!!

[Oradea]

If you talk to immigration about not letting him through, you are gonna put a whole worl of shit on yerself. They will automatically assume that the two of you are in Cahoots.

Anyway, Why not ask the wife directly, you say youd like to stay married, there must be something there for you to say that, so dont do anything underhand, talk to the wife, and most importantly listen. You might just be wrong about the whole set up, and if not, at least it will be out in the open and not something neither of you will talk about.

Best of luck anyway.

[AssKissinger]

Why are you mad at him and not your wife?

4sho

Being mad at that guy is like being mad a bulldog for eating the steak you left out. Be mad at the steak, dude. And get an HIV test. And see if you can't get some pics of this guy working your wife over and post them. I really need to see the look on her face when that little Thai dick is rammed up her ass to know what kind of advice to give. Thanks in advance.

[Oradea]

I really need to see the look on her face when that little Thai dick is rammed up her ass to know what kind of advice to give.

AK, You could be a little more sensitive. I think the PC term these days is
Petite Thai Penis.

[AssKissinger]

How about Tiny Thai Twinkie?

[amdg]

I smell *cough* bullshit.

[AssKissinger]

It's a trollarolladingdong (most likely) but still his wife probably really is getting assreamed by some other fellow.

[oyajikun]

I smell *cough* bullshit.

Ditto. Probably more like his girls husband is coming back to beat his ass or something like that.

[amdg]

It's a trollarolladingdong (most likely) but still his wife probably really is getting assreamed by some other fellow.

True enough. But for fun I'm going to put myself in 'his' situation and try to imagine what I would do.

1. I think my wife may doing a bit of the strange = talk to her.
2. I secretly check my wife's emails = kill myself.
3. I post to Fucked Gaijin to ask how to stop my wife fucking gaijin = Kill myself.

Two out of three says a bullet in the mouth (upper soft pallet) may be the best answer you are looking for tickedoff.

[james]

Ever so quietly, she's funded the guy's flight to Japan for a week or so of guess what.

uhh... what?

[Samurai_Jerk]

If this guy's not a troll he's a fucking pussy.

[Neo-Rio]

Hi,
I'm new to this board and I'm badly in need of advice. I've just discovered that my Japanese wife has found herself a (fat, broke but younger) gaijin lover in Thailand. Ever so quietly, she's funded the guy's flight to Japan for a week or so of guess what. And probably temple visits, too. I'd very much like to stay married to my wife, and I think this is just an.. um.. mid-life thing that will blow over if I can keep this guy away from her.

Judging by your mail, it's obvious why this has happened, and why it will continue to happen until YOU change. If you want advice, prepare for a good kick in the ass because you need it.

1. Women will have sex with whoever they want to whenever they want to, and being married doesn't change that at all. Marriage is not a free ride to endless sex with one woman because you can't find others.
2. That being the case, get used to the idea that if you could "have" a woman, doing and being what you are to her, then so could any other guy doing pretty much and acting similarly to how you treated her.
3. Women cheat when they feel that their man's status has dropped. Judging by the tone of your mail, it's obvious that you've turned into a crybaby wuss bag that needs her more than she needs you.
4. Like everyone said... why are you angry with the other guy and not your wife?
5. If you want to stay married, replace the part that isn't working (i.e. your wife) and then you'll get to have the marriage that you really want.

[Greji]

5. If you want to stay married, replace the part that isn't working (i.e. your wife) and then you'll get to have the marriage that you really want.

Good call Neo, but you should have added that if it doesn't work and she continues to want to cheat on him, have her call me!

[FG Lurker]

I have the guy's picture and know exactly when he's arriving at Narita [...] Is there anything i can (legally) do [...] ?

Buy him a bottle of gin and a ladder (although it sounds like he doesn't need the ladder...) Send them both on their way and find yourself a girlfriend at least 10 years younger than your wife -- as long as wife-10 >= 18 of course.

I guarantee you will feel much better in very short order. Remember, a man is only as old as the woman he feels!