
There were times when I did not get along very well with my father-in-law. He has a negative outlook and even blamed me for the fact that his son wouldn't go out and get a job when we moved back to Japan after our daughter was born. Apparently in his eyes, my having a job and earning a decent salary somehow emasculated his son. At least that was the story I was made to endure one night when otousan (Dad) had a few drinks. He liked to drink and lecture me and I felt it was my duty to sit and listen, even though my husband and even my mother-in-law would leave the room and leave me there with him!