In Japan 2 months and still no girlfriend.

[American Oyaji]

Look,

The trick to picking up women is you can NOT be anxious about picking up a chick.

Women SENSE desperation. Don't ask me why. They guys can pick up women the best are either married, separated or divorced. Married guys know they can go home and get laid so they aren't putting on any pressure. Separated guys and divorced guys are usually a more mature and self confident.

Confidence is KEY.

As is alcohol. You HAVE to be able to hold your liquor. That is, if you don't have enough confidence.

And remember. The goal is not to screw THAT SAME NIGHT. But at some point in the future. It's like a pussy bank that adds up. You just talk and talk and talk and collect phone numbers and eventually, you'll get laid. Don't be anxious, it will happen, but don't stop being friends with the girls that WONT screw. Women tend to be attracted to men that have women friends. But they want those friends to go away if they become your "girlfriend".

You've got to be comfortable around women as well. If you can't just be cool and chill, then you might as well go home. You have to be interested, but you have a casual interest. Not intense. Sometimes you HAVE to be intense, thats when you two just CLICK and you're pretty sure you're gonna get some booty that night.

Just be cool. Booty will come

My advice tho...

Wait until you are married...... PLEASE. Its easier on your marriage when your wife decides not to do some things after you get married that she "happily" did before you got married. So if you wait until marriage, you wont be missing anything. Trust me.

[Caustic Saint]

My advice tho...

Wait until you are married...... PLEASE. Its easier on your marriage when your wife decides not to do some things after you get married that she "happily" did before you got married. So if you wait until marriage, you wont be missing anything. Trust me.

That's the worst "bait and switch" crap that chicks pull. Odds are, she never liked doing the stuff she changes her mind on. (Yes, I did notice you put happily in quotes.)

But I don't think you should wait until marriage to have sex. What if you wait and she's the worst lay ever?

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

My advice tho...

Wait until you are married...... PLEASE. Its easier on your marriage when your wife decides not to do some things after you get married that she "happily" did before you got married. So if you wait until marriage, you wont be missing anything. Trust me.

That's the worst "bait and switch" crap that chicks pull. Odds are, she never liked doing the stuff she changes her mind on. (Yes, I did notice you put happily in quotes.)

But I don't think you should wait until marriage to have sex. What if you wait and she's the worst lay ever?

Also what if you wait get married and she becomes fat!! you dont talk to her for one day she eats 2 tubs on Haggen daz. Then feeling sorry for herself and the fact she ate 2 tubs of haggen daz she decides to eat 5 tubs of Ben and Jerrys 'phish food' And the cycle begins.

[GomiGirl]

Also what if you wait get married and she becomes fat!! you dont talk to her for one day she eats 2 tubs on Haggen daz. Then feeling sorry for herself and the fact she ate 2 tubs of haggen daz she decides to eat 5 tubs of Ben and Jerrys 'phish food' And the cycle begins.

Also on a dirtier not what if she has thoes big long inside pussy lips or worse!

Considering your poor attitude and arrogant slurs against what you consider "undesirable" in a girl I am now not surprised that you are without a girlfriend!!

Grow up and lose the attitude and perhaps you will have more luck!!

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

Also what if you wait get married and she becomes fat!! you dont talk to her for one day she eats 2 tubs on Haggen daz. Then feeling sorry for herself and the fact she ate 2 tubs of haggen daz she decides to eat 5 tubs of Ben and Jerrys 'phish food' And the cycle begins.

Also on a dirtier not what if she has thoes big long inside pussy lips or worse!

Considering your poor attitude and arrogant slurs against what you consider "undesirable" in a girl I am now not surprised that you are without a girlfriend!!

Grow up and lose the attitude and perhaps you will have more luck!!

I am sorry. I got a bit out of hand. But its something I dont like. I am sure there are things in men you hate. Or have you never mocked something of the opposite sex. For ever I hear that a man can never satisify a woman.....

......Lost my train of thought will resume later

[Neo-Rio]

Also what if you wait get married and she becomes fat!! you dont talk to her for one day she eats 2 tubs on Haggen daz. Then feeling sorry for herself and the fact she ate 2 tubs of haggen daz she decides to eat 5 tubs of Ben and Jerrys 'phish food' And the cycle begins.

Also on a dirtier not what if she has thoes big long inside pussy lips or worse!

Here it comes again.. The treatise of love....

Neural structures which fulfill the instincts, arose in the deepest antiquity. Thinking, analyzing or even simply extrapolate is absolutely impossible task for them. They are triggered whenever schematic and static template fitted in instinct matches some kind of external signal attributes which can by chance look like actually required. However, having free and direct access to the motivational centers of brain instincts can evoke the FEELING of it's correctness on any subject. This influence can resemble some narcotic intoxication. Narcotic illusions can also be perceived as high level wisdom. That is why love has no "wisdom". It has only a feeling of wisdom. Actually love evaluate the object of choice very superficially according to a strict (sometimes stupid) genetic program which sets a strategy for choosing a marriage partner. The mind is left nothing to do but to find a way to justify the answer. It is in nature of any person to look for ways to justify the answer when he tries to explain his instinctively motivational behavior.

[/quote]

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

Dont any of you guys go out? I only got one suggestion for a club to go ot and I have been to that one already. Or are you just keeping all the good places a secret. Or you are afraid that if there are to many gaijin at your local then you lessen your chance?

[Caustic Saint]

Also what if you wait get married and she becomes fat!! you dont talk to her for one day she eats 2 tubs on Haggen daz. Then feeling sorry for herself and the fact she ate 2 tubs of haggen daz she decides to eat 5 tubs of Ben and Jerrys 'phish food' And the cycle begins.

Okay, that may have been bait, but I'll bite.

What if she gets fat? You tell her to get thin or get dumped, that's what. Did you (the hypothetical person in this example) marry a fat chick? No. If you'd wanted to be married to a fat chick, you would've married one.

Remaining attractive to your partner is a requirement. (Yes, people lose some beauty as they age, I'm not talking about that.) If you can't look at your partner and see something there that you love, it's time to either make changes or move on.

Never mind the condition in your original example (binge eating after not being spoken to for one day). That's a chick who's got waaaayyyy too many issues to be worth remaining married to - much less marrying in the first place.

[GomiGirl]

I am sure you would be better off with a mail order catalogue. That way you just just order up the sort of chicky-babe that you have been requesting.. just like ording a pizza!!

[cstaylor]

Just wait until the patent clears on my Mr. Clone...

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

I am sure you would be better off with a mail order catalogue. That way you just just order up the sort of chicky-babe that you have been requesting.. just like ording a pizza!!

Hmmm, I dont have the cash though! Also ordering a mail order bride may end up with marrige which I would prefer to avoid just now.

Mind you the delevery charges would be cheep a I live in the mail order bride warehouse I wonder will they give me a disscount.

[GomiGirl]

Also what if you wait get married and What if she gets fat? You tell her to get thin or get dumped, that's what. Did you (the hypothetical person in this example) marry a fat chick? No. If you'd wanted to be married to a fat chick, you would've married one.

Does that work both ways? I am single but if I get married and the guy becomes fat and bald I can demand that he loses weight and grows hair? kewl!!

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

Also what if you wait get married and What if she gets fat? You tell her to get thin or get dumped, that's what. Did you (the hypothetical person in this example) marry a fat chick? No. If you'd wanted to be married to a fat chick, you would've married one.

Does that work both ways? I am single but if I get married and the guy becomes fat and bald I can demand that he loses weight and grows hair? kewl!!

Probably, that might be a new approach for girls. I thaught women just went around all their friends and say the guy is impotent or not satisifing you or doesn't "care for your needs".(What ever the hell they are supposed to be) Still I would prefer to be called fat as I could always lose weight.

[GomiGirl]

Probably, that might be a new approach for girls. I thaught women just went around all their friends and say the guy is impotent or not satisifing you or doesn't "care for your needs".(What ever the hell they are supposed to be) Still I would prefer to be called fat as I could always lose weight.

Yes all girls think and act exactly the same way!! They just look different so you can tell them apart.

[Caustic Saint]

Also what if you wait get married and What if she gets fat? You tell her to get thin or get dumped, that's what. Did you (the hypothetical person in this example) marry a fat chick? No. If you'd wanted to be married to a fat chick, you would've married one.

Does that work both ways? I am single but if I get married and the guy becomes fat and bald I can demand that he loses weight and grows hair? kewl!!

Lose weight? Yes. Grow hair? No, unless you've got some proven method to regrow hair.

As people age, certain things will happen - hair will fall out, wrinkles will appear, boobs will sag, bones will lose density - that are pretty much unavoidable. Weight gain is not one of them.

So...to make a Cochranism here - if your partner stays plump, it's time to dump!

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

Yes all girls think and act exactly the same way!! They just look different so you can tell them apart.

Thanks for clearing that up. I can see clearly now... I was making a generalisation that turned out to be true. Spread the word.

[GargoyleTS]

OMG GG, that was hilarious!!

Um, NNNC, Best advice would be to go to G-bars a few times and make some G-friends and ask them where the Kewl girls are. Or maybe try altering your approach to the ones you like. Pick up a fat girl as she will want to take you out and show you off and thus take you to the very places you wanna go. Much faster and likely less expensive than my first suggestion, but will definitely result in hurt-feelings. You just gotta ask yourself, "Am I the 'break a few eggs' type?"

And before the flaming responses come flying in, this is not what I do. I would try my first idea repeatedly before doing the second. (and then I'd probly wind up liking her and trying to get her to do a lot more physical activity in a semi-covert attempt to help her lose weight)

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

[Naniwan Kid]

Dont any of you guys go out? I only got one suggestion for a club to go ot and I have been to that one already. Or are you just keeping all the good places a secret. Or you are afraid that if there are to many gaijin at your local then you lessen your chance?

Shit man, I don't live in Tokyo. Don't piss on the parade of helpers. It is pretty easy to get a fucked rep on this site, so if you want any help at all ask, get what you get, and say "thank you". It may take a day or two.

If you aren't careful you might get directed to the nicest new-half bar in Shibuya.

[Big Booger]

I can see the STD's forming on this thread hehehe "Guys don't be silly put a rubber on your Willy!"

Glad I am married.

[Jack]

My advice is to stay away from dating Japanese women unless your looking to add notches to your bed post or to pull all of your hair out. Meet a nice Canadian flight attendant or something..

Where do you find those? I thought the mandatory minimum age for a Canadian flight attendant is 45.

[Jack]

Neo...something (please find a shorter name next time)

I can't believe that you have to ask where to go to meet girls in Japan. First of all, I don't believe anything you say. You are just trying to pull people's legs. YO don't have to go anywhere special, if you are a foreigner you'll meet girls at the train station (just pretend you don't know how the ticket machine works), in coffee shops (just pretend you are struggling to understand the menu board), on the streets or wherever. Damn, just go in Daimaru browse and ask one of the cute sales clerck for a coffee.

By the way, every single girl you will go out with in Japan will want to get married. If they don't say so openly they are thinking about it, I garantee you.

One final thing, girls in Japan do not hold Valentino bags, they hold Louis Vuitton bags and until you learn that you'll never catch anything there.

[Naniwan Kid]

Jack, when you are right, you are right.

[jingai]

Jack, are you saying that knowing Japanese is a hindrance to meeting girls in Japan? If you play dumb, won't they soon find out that you know more than you pretended to? If you really know that little Japanese, what sort of a relationship can you have beyond simple carnality, unless you find one of the rare ones who is good at your language?

I think your suggestions hold true for newbie FOB gaijins, and only FOB gaijins.

[katakori]

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

[Taro Toporific]

I think your suggestions hold true for newbie FOB gaijins, and only FOB gaijins.

The "proper" term for FOB gaijn that I loooove to spring on Japanese is NAMA GAIJIN...
Fresh Off the Boat gaijins are North Korean.

[ramchop]

[NeoNecroNomiCron]

Congratulations, and which of your candy coated fantasies is this girl? The goth, the cartoon, or the skin and bones?

Skin and bones is the flavor of the day.

Or are you hoping to buy her a costume and ask her to dress up when you get to know her better?

In one word: BURAMA

washi sukube jake!

[oyajikun]

Just tell everyone you already have a girlfreind and you are bound to have girls asking for your number.