Stay away from japanese women

[Col.Kilgore]

here's a list o' reasons why the average white dude should stay away from the evil charms o' the j-chick:
1) They will leech off you, if not financially then linguistically
2) They will use you as a status symbol (like their Gucci bags) to make their friends jealous
3) They will whine and moan incessantly until pacified (usually financially)
4) They will try and trap you in the hell of an 'international' marriage and then you can kiss goodbye to any of your own dreams or life goals
5) They will not be able to speak your language properly (nor you theirs) so there will be no proper and nuanced communication between you
6) You will never EVER be regarded as a REAL human being by either the girl, or her family.

So ther you have it. Appreciate any feedback, CONSTRUCTIVE criticisms, additions, etc. No Flamers please

[cstaylor]

5) They will not be able to speak your language properly (nor you theirs) so there will be no proper and nuanced communication between you
6) You will never EVER be regarded as a REAL human being by either the girl, or her family.

These two go together. It's hard to have serious feelings for anyone you can't communicate with. Quoting Bruce Willis from "The 5th Element": "Negative, I am a meat popsicle".

[American Oyaji]

That's just dumb, retarded and any word for STUPID you can think of in any language.

That's like saying All white people are card carrying members of the Klu Klux Klan. (There ARE some Black Americans who believe this, sadly enough.)

[AssKissinger]

Col., With all due respect I couldn't disagree more. For years now I've had an incurable case of 'Yellow Fever' or whatever the hell it's called. Even before my first taste of of what I lovingly refer to as 'China Vagina' I was already obsessed with oriental women. But after my first actual dip into that wonderful yellow honey I was sold hook line and sinker. Whenever I see threads that read something like 'Why do you stay in Japan (besides the chicks)?' it totally freaks me out. The chicks are the reason. The only real reason. I married an oriental woman (and I have to use this term because my fetish is limited to northeast Asia) because the women of other races hold no sexual value to me. To me, just to perve when I'm out and about in Japan makes life worth living here. Everyday I'm staggered by the beauty. Year after year my amazement never ceases. One poster said it's because they're not fat. But to me that's not it. I love them all fat and thin alike. On the trains, it blows my mind, I'll see five different girls, all of whom seem like they must be the most beautiful woman in the world, and they're not even friends! All in the same car! They are far and away the most beautiful women in the world. And the sex? I have to ask God what have I done to deserve such a pleasure. How could I have married anything else? Now to address your points.

1) They will leech off you, if not financially then linguistically

It's normal for a man to take care of his woman financially and for her to expect it. We take care of each other. It's right and natural. Linguistically, in a more low key relationship, what a small price to pay for the prize of all prizes. Before my wife, most of my J-girlfriends wanted to speak Japanese anyway and if they did speak English that was even better because speaking Japanese all day makes me tired.

2) They will use you as a status symbol (like their Gucci bags) to make their friends jealous

I doubt in my case anybody is getting too jealous. But even if it's true...so what? If you got a sweet honey on your arm you know you're keeping your head held high. It's the same thing. If a hot chick actually wants to show ME off then God bless her!

3) They will whine and moan incessantly until pacified (usually financially)

White chicks bitch twice as much. When I married my wife I was unemployed and recently canned so I know it wasn't about money. That's just a characteristic about women in general. A lot of women are high-maintanence. Whatever they're bitchin' about usually what they need is a good fuck. Go deep and put her ass to sleep.

They will try and trap you in the hell of an 'international' marriage and then you can kiss goodbye to any of your own dreams or life goals

This point is lost on me since my dream is to sleep with a Japanese honey everynight for the rest of my life. Besides that I can pursue my ambitions and be in an 'international' relationship at the same time. It's not exactly my dream to suck American corporate cock or to bend over for the Japs but now I can choose my devil or avoid them both. Access to two countries gives more more options not less.

5) They will not be able to speak your language properly (nor you theirs) so there will be no proper and nuanced communication between you

I think people put way to much emphasis on verbal communication. No native speaker of English in this world understands me better than my wife. Sometimes, we have to dumb down our vocabulary a bit but we get the point. No worries, here.

6) You will never EVER be regarded as a REAL human being by either the girl, or her family

That's just paranoid. A lot of Japanese are racist but it's not universal all the time.

My wife doesn't regard me as any less REAL than a Japanese person. She loves me with heart and soul and she's my best friend. I'd never want anyone else to hold my hand when it's my turn to die. If I should go first.

[Big Booger]

I think some of that can apply to everyone here...


I know at least one of those applies to me..

So yeah, not all but some.

[japslapper]

....I get pissed of most by the linguistic leeching - but if they let me "dip the wick" into the oriental honey pot first - then no problem - I will listen to their broken engrish in my post coitial slumber.

A decent girl will care for you more than her engrish.....its just hard to find a decent one. Get you JP up to scratch and play around load before you get into wife hunting mode. There are good girls and bad girls everywhere.......

And if you want some decent chat just find a few other FGs around to talk to - many will have the same problem. Have a Jbird for poking and a western bird for talking?

And anyway - find the perfect marriage/relationship in the US or wherever...

My best advice is know the beast before you "buy it"......as I got confident and knowledgable about the country I can now quickly indentify my type.....

I reccomend to anyone Inaka girls - they are so much more sensitive and I think faithful.......

[Alcazar]

here's a list o' reasons why the average white dude should stay away from the evil charms o' the j-chick:
1) They will leech off you, if not financially then linguistically.

Just set the ground rules so it doesn't happen that way.

2) They will use you as a status symbol (like their Gucci bags) to make their friends jealous.

Who cares if you are fucking them? Aren't you getting something out of the equation? Got to have no shame here I guess! 'Yep, I'm a status symbol, but hey, I'm getting something in return'. Just do the whole 'Zoolander' thing.

3) They will whine and moan incessantly until pacified (usually financially).

Only if YOU train them to by giving into and rewarding that behaviour. Turn that situation around with a new girl. Ultimately women don't respect men who always do what they want after a while.

4) They will try and trap you in the hell of an 'international' marriage and then you can kiss goodbye to any of your own dreams or life goals.

Good point, something to avoid unless you plan on being a 'lifer' in Japan.

5) They will not be able to speak your language properly (nor you theirs) so there will be no proper and nuanced communication between you.

Once again, shouldn't matter if you aren't serious, but very good point.

6) You will never EVER be regarded as a REAL human being by either the girl, or her family.

Well, from what I have read on this site, that's true.....

I think in short, Japanese women sound like great fun, you just have to keep your wits about you and stay grounded. You have infinite options as long as you stay single and don't make commitments, but once you get married etc, then you're locked in.

Well that is my perspective as a fairly inexperienced young man of 22.......'Yeah I know some things, I read FG....'

[American Oyaji]

Why does every thread about Japanese women become a thread objectifying women like cattle or livestock?

[Alcazar]

Why does every thread about Japanese women become a thread objectifying women like cattle or livestock?

I guess that the lowest common denominator view point is guaranteed to be expressed after a while if enough people comment! Yeah I know it's 'bad', but I also like to be able to honestly express what I think, even if it is objectionable to some-it is liberating. You can't so easily express these ideas to a room of people in real life, but you can here.

PS: I am never rude to women in reality! And I bet that many guys out there who can also be 'Oh so charming' think similar thoughts to myself behind the facade. Women too, from the female perspective!

[AlbertSiegel]

I KNOW i've read this same exact post word for word some time ago on another board.

[Jack]

Stay away from Japanese women at your own peril. I would recommend every foreigner to at least date some Japanese women. Get a taste of it. If you have a bad experience, could it be that is is your fault? As opposed to the girls'?

[Andocrates]

OK, well I think that just explains 98% of ALL the women in the world. If you are in a casual relationship you are all about getting what you can, you want sex, the girl understands the value of her body and charges accordingly. There is no free pussy.

That same girl when she meets the right man will turn into a devoted little love puppy, and the man will do the same. You want to have your cake and eat it too.

[kamome]

I agree that language and the hell of international marriage are serious concerns. But practically all of the above can be overcome in the right situation with the right girl (Japanese or otherwise).

[Col.Kilgore]

Thanks dudes for your serious non-flaming responses. I played devil's advocate with this one a bit, I know, but I'm seriously trying to get a broad cross section of FG opinion on this subject as I'm currently dating a J-chick and things look like they're gettin' serious. Gotta look before you leap....

[kamome]

Thanks dudes for your serious non-flaming responses. I played devil's advocate with this one a bit, I know, but I'm seriously trying to get a broad cross section of FG opinion on this subject as I'm currently dating a J-chick and things look like they're gettin' serious. Gotta look before you leap....

Watch out...she's getting her hooks in. Before you know it, you will have a new live-in roommate, doilies accenting the furniture, and toilet seat covers!

[Neo-Rio]

Thanks dudes for your serious non-flaming responses. I played devil's advocate with this one a bit, I know, but I'm seriously trying to get a broad cross section of FG opinion on this subject as I'm currently dating a J-chick and things look like they're gettin' serious. Gotta look before you leap....

I guess the logical way to look at being paranoid is this:-

If you went around believing that all Japanese women were out to rip you off, you would begin to view ALL Jwomen in that light, so much so that it would make you very angry at ALL of them, regardless of whether they were bad or not. Then ALL Japanese women would go out of their way to piss you off because of the way you are treating them. This keeps spiralling out onto itself.

Dangerous to make sweeping generalisations like that one. Just as a manipulator views everyone else as being manipulative....
Funny, but the subconcious works in strange ways. Call it karma.

How about you try going around believing that ALL Japanese women love you and are sexual addicts....?

[Shibuya Me]

here's a list o' reasons why the average white dude should stay away from the evil charms o' the j-chick:
1) They will leech off you, if not financially then linguistically
2) They will use you as a status symbol (like their Gucci bags) to make their friends jealous
3) They will whine and moan incessantly until pacified (usually financially)
4) They will try and trap you in the hell of an 'international' marriage and then you can kiss goodbye to any of your own dreams or life goals
5) They will not be able to speak your language properly (nor you theirs) so there will be no proper and nuanced communication between you
6) You will never EVER be regarded as a REAL human being by either the girl, or her family.

So ther you have it. Appreciate any feedback, CONSTRUCTIVE criticisms, additions, etc. No Flamers please

:P

I totally agree 100%!

....that is if you get the wrong girl.

I had a girl who turned out to be my worst nightmare!

Now, I have a girl who is my dream come true.

Both Japanese.

Its like any nationality...if you pick the wrong nose hole...you miss the booger entirely.

I think Einstein said that.....

[Kurofune]

Many of the FG I know say that if they had it to do again, they wouldn't. It seems that for every happy couple I meet, there are many more stiff-upper-lip ones.