Boo hoo, poor you.

[Cyka UchuuJin]

You poor gaijin boys stuck in Japan...

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/community/2 ... R8z90LHx90

Free advise: don't stick your dick in locals and make babies!

[yanpa]

Better free advice: be in control of your life whatever country you live in...

[Coligny]

If you know of unwanted free babies, we have shit tons of rooms available...

at worse few more kittehs are ok... but... we already got plenty of those...

[yanpa]

Someone getting broody?

[kurogane]

You poor gaijin boys stuck in Japan...

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/community/2 ... R8z90LHx90

Free advise: don't stick your dick in locals and make babies!

Who woulda thought our Cyka was, in fact:



PS JOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But....but...........she said I didn't need to wear a condom if I didn't want to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alarming how resilient this sad sack trope is. The Eternal Power of the Inner Debito? Havill and that American crime reporter guy made nice comments, although they seemed to be Twatter based which is always sad.


I have reached my limit of articles or something, so if anybody is in the mood, a cut and paste of the whole thing would be appreciated.

[Yokohammer]

I have reached my limit of articles or something, so if anybody is in the mood, a cut and paste of the whole thing would be appreciated.

Delete your JT cookies and you're good to go again.

Thereafter you can browse in "private mode" if your browser has that feature.

[Coligny]

You poor gaijin boys stuck in Japan...

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/community/2 ... R8z90LHx90

Free advise: don't stick your dick in locals and make babies!

Who woulda thought our Cyka was, in fact:

western woman !?

Cyka be eastern slavic commie scum ...

baroness.jpg

ya can 360 noscope me anytime babe...

[kurogane]

All the Eastern Wimmins I ever met were harder than every Western Wimmin I ever met. Except my sister.

Besides, unless my Batsense is failing, she knows me from Other Venues, aka The Olde Place

Thanks for the tip, BTW, YokoHammer. :thumbsup:

[Wage Slave]

so he ended up teaching English somewhere in the sticks

And disaster struck. Yep, if you are not living in one of the big cities you have to deal with the realities of living in Japan. You can't cocoon yourself. And you have to work harder at building a decent income - just like the locals have to. And you have to accept that the opportunities are harder to come by - just like the locals. And yes Havill, you need some Japanese to get by. And there won't be a lot of decent help to learn that Japanese.

However, amazingly enough, quite a few people manage to do it. In fact, some even prosper to a modest extent! Imagine that! And it's noticeable that quite a few of their children do rather well at school and go on to the better public universities.

[Samurai_Jerk]

Jim, an American in his late 20s, used to be a very passionate young man. He claimed he was a communist — a Stalinist, even. He would engage in endless political debates during smoking breaks and drinking sessions. He dreamed of graduate school, an academic career and, one day, even leading a riot.

I'm really surprised that guy hasn't made it big.

Having non-Japanese friends and co-workers helps a lot. Not only can you use your native language, but the patterns of communication, expectations and levels of self-disclosure tend to be quite similar, and therefore it is often easier to build and develop relationships. The fact that we are all foreigners here “in the same boat” is a perfect icebreaker.

I've found that I'm happier here to more I go native and stop hanging around other expats.

[Wage Slave]

Free advise: don't stick your dick in locals and make babies!

Nothing wrong with doing that in itself. In fact, I believe the government is rather keen on it on the inarguable grounds that beggars can't be choosers. And there is no onerous impediment to getting PR or even citizenship if you are the monogamous in all things type.

You just have to, as Yanpa said, know what you are doing.

[wagyl]

I've found that I'm happier here the more I go native and stop hanging around other expats.

I agree. Concentrate on the shared humanity. Deemphasise the "us vs them."

[Yokohammer]

I've found that I'm happier here to more I go native and stop hanging around other expats.

Very true. And that is really the only way to gain some true insight. No need to shut yourself off completely, but hanging out with expats who spend all of their off time bitching about Japan can only lead to depression.




~ Tapatalking ~

[Cyka UchuuJin]

Free advise: don't stick your dick in locals and make babies!

Nothing wrong with doing that in itself. In fact, I believe the government is rather keen on it on the inarguable grounds that beggars can't be choosers. And there is no onerous impediment to getting PR or even citizenship if you are the monogamous in all things type.

You just have to, as Yanpa said, know what you are doing.

(all Western Woman jokes giggled at and ignored)

No, definitely nothing wrong with it, I am the product of such a union. However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal. That's why I say don't do it, or if you are going to, take precautions unless you're ready to become one of the 'trapped'

I also believe in a healthy mix of hanging out with both expats and locals, but I will admit I find it less interesting here in Tokyo than I did in Osaka. So far the expats I've met are a little, not really my cup of tea.

[Wage Slave]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

[Cyka UchuuJin]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

[Coligny]

I know of one whose main transformation when entering motherhood was going back to play tennis...

(Meanwhile dadinlaw was even seen switching diapers, but he ordered all photographic evidence to be destroyed)

[Wage Slave]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

[GargoyleTS]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

I blame this on American Sex (lack of) Education. Can't teach young Timmy what his tool is for and why he shouldn't use it on everyone in sight, that would lead to letting The Devil into his soul and crazy things like believing the world is more than 6,000 years old, or dressing like Justin Beiber and banging our pure innocent daughters who don't even know the meaning of the word Sex! (cause we're not teaching them shit about it either and then wondering why they wind up pregnant drop outs)

Bu there is hope! Kids are educating themselves with that silly Internet thing and teen pregnancy, smoking, drinking and other "adult only" activities are on the decline! Soon, you may have a Japan with only the scummiest of Americans still becoming Charisma Man...

And since you'll know they are worthless you can just kill them off.

Please.

I can't explain the Canadians though, I thought they taught better up there?

[Cyka UchuuJin]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

[Wage Slave]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

[Cyka UchuuJin]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

I'm going to print that out and put it on my mirror as my daily mantra.

(holy shit that reiki stuff has turned me into a new age weirdo...)

[Samurai_Jerk]

I also believe in a healthy mix of hanging out with both expats and locals, but I will admit I find it less interesting here in Tokyo than I did in Osaka. So far the expats I've met are a little, not really my cup of tea.

I definitely have my expat friends and sometimes it's fun to get together with everyone and escape from Japan for a few hows but going to your local Irish (or whatever) pub, drinking Guinness, eating fish and chips, and endlessly complaining about Japan every other day gets old pretty quickly.

Tokyo is a lot bigger than Osaka with a lot more options. You probably haven't found the right scene yet.

[Cyka UchuuJin]

I also believe in a healthy mix of hanging out with both expats and locals, but I will admit I find it less interesting here in Tokyo than I did in Osaka. So far the expats I've met are a little, not really my cup of tea.

I definitely have my expat friends and sometimes it's fun to get together with everyone and escape from Japan for a few hows but going to your local Irish (or whatever) pub, drinking Guinness, eating fish and chips, and endlessly complaining about Japan every other day gets old pretty quickly.

Tokyo is a lot bigger than Osaka with a lot more options. You probably haven't found the right scene yet.

maybe not, but i am forever hopeful. probably naive.

i fully agree on the endless complaining about the place they've chosen to live in though. i don't do that scene at all.

[Wage Slave]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

I'm going to print that out and put it on my mirror as my daily mantra.

(holy shit that reiki stuff has turned me into a new age weirdo...)

I'm flattered. Thank you.

[Cyka UchuuJin]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

I'm going to print that out and put it on my mirror as my daily mantra.

(holy shit that reiki stuff has turned me into a new age weirdo...)

I'm flattered. Thank you.

alright alright, let's not get emotional here.

[Wage Slave]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

I'm going to print that out and put it on my mirror as my daily mantra.

(holy shit that reiki stuff has turned me into a new age weirdo...)

I'm flattered. Thank you.

alright alright, let's not get emotional here.

Not so sure about that. If someone pays you a genuine compliment then its only good manners to accept it and thank them. Fuck all that Anglo and Japanese feigned modesty crap.

[Russell]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

I'm going to print that out and put it on my mirror as my daily mantra.

(holy shit that reiki stuff has turned me into a new age weirdo...)

I'm flattered. Thank you.

alright alright, let's not get emotional here.

Oh Cyka, you're so romanchic...

[Cyka UchuuJin]

However what always gets me, is that so many men seem surprised when a girl here gets pregnant and even more so that she is not only keeping it, but expecting marriage and the full deal.

Yes, absolutely right. It is also, ahem, surprising, that they somehow expect life to just continue on in the same way after children arrive. That said, the transformation to mother/housewife is dramatic and complete. It didn't bother me all that much but it is a comprehensive, exclusive and all encompassing transformation to be sure.

Of everywhere I have been in the world, the transformation seems to be the most 'dramatic and complete' of anywhere. I think gaijin men assume that they won't get browbeaten like japanese husbands do or that their japanese girl is 'different'.

Yep, I would say that agrees with my experience. Personally, I say it's just one of those things - You have to take the whole package when you take people on. You can't pick and choose and you aren't going to change them all that much. I'm half seriously considering retiring to the potting shed soon - on the grounds that's what we are culturally programmed to do. And that's that.

That is just a flaw in humans... people keep thinking that they have the power to change their partner.

Yes. In my experience it also applies to managing, teaching and parenting. You really have to accept the whole package, grant self respect and dignity and then find ways of working within that. The good bit is - do it right and people repay you in spades.

I'm going to print that out and put it on my mirror as my daily mantra.

(holy shit that reiki stuff has turned me into a new age weirdo...)

I'm flattered. Thank you.

alright alright, let's not get emotional here.

Not so sure about that. If someone pays you a genuine compliment then its only good manners to accept it and thank them. Fuck all that Anglo and Japanese feigned modesty crap.

I have a reputation to uphold here, Slave. Can't let anyone think I'm actually nice...

[matsuki]

I've found that I'm happier here the more I go native and stop hanging around other expats.

I agree. Concentrate on the shared humanity. Deemphasise the "us vs them."

The more time I spend with locals, I think the more they hesitate to use "gaijin wa" before some generic stereotype. That in itself is enough to smile about but as I've said before, I try to limit my bitching about Japan to here because other than the occasional joke, constantly bitching about anything when out to drink, laugh, etc. isn't exactly a recipe for success.

Very true. And that is really the only way to gain some true insight. No need to shut yourself off completely, but hanging out with expats who spend all of their off time bitching about Japan can only lead to depression.

I think the only reason that type of stuff comes up is sometimes only other FG "get it" and it's nice to feel you're not the only one banging your head on the wall about the latest "only in fucking Japan" shit...like the 2 months rent for "hoken" I just paid on a fucking unpaved parking space As you say though, if you let it rule you, it will likely only end up manifesting in some sort of self-imposed depression like those blokes in that article. Nobody's "stuck" here.