Samurai_Jerk wrote:Nothing is always true, but many things are generally true. And I would say that what I said is generally true. Most guys I know would say the ladder theory is true. Maybe you're the exception to the rule. But that's what everybody claims.
You are of course welcome to your opinion. My opinion is that the ladder theory is just another worthless generalization. Although I find many women sexually attractive I am more than capable of having plutonic relationships with them. If you are not capable of that then it is your loss.
Samurai_Jerk wrote:Again, if you are hanging out alone with women I think it's perfectly reasonable for your partner to be uncomfortable or suspicious.
My wife has no problem with it. She also has friends who are male, and that's cool with me too. We have a very stable and trusting relationship.
Samurai_Jerk wrote:Unless maybe they're all little old ladies buying teacher dinner as a thank you.
I enjoyed my time teaching, but I am glad I don't do it anymore. No, I don't have little old ladies buying me dinner as a thank you.
Samurai_Jerk wrote:The fact is, even if you start out with the best of intentions, putting yourself in a situation where something can happen just makes things more dangerous. People love to say "Well I would never do that." Then they end up doing it.
Actually the fact is you are applying what you are (in)capable of to me, and it doesn't fit. Such applications are human nature and there is actually a name for the behavior, but it escapes me right now.
Samurai_Jerk wrote:BTW, I never said I was upset at the shop owner's reaction. Just surprised. I guess I was amused too.
You said you were "shocked" and then said you were "rude" in your response to her.
I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life. Different people are able to accept different things. Life would be damn boring if we were all the same.
Sorry to hear your luck didnt hold-out on the in-laws....I had to wait 1 year before my j-mother-in-law finally gave the 'nod'. Now we get on great, I love going to vistit them whenI have the time and cash. Both me and my wife could have worked in her fathers ery successful business but decided not to, as the old saying goes "family and business dont mix".....I guess if we did things may have gone sour. Also, I see no reason stopping you from going back to your home country. They have a good social security system, and if you cashed up enough you'll find something sure enough. Personally I love Japan and cant wait to go back, concrete and all. I hate Australia, the people here just piss me off (maybe thats what you feel about jap), I WILL go bananas if I stay here more than a few years, I'm planning an exit strategy, so should you! 
