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legion wrote:Mind boggling stuff, it's wheels within wheels within wheels.
I asked my wife about the sole custody thing a while ago, basically in her opinion the basic idea is if one parent is going to do all the difficult stuff, why should the other parent have the option to be the "fun" parent, taking the kid to Mickey D's, showering them with presents, then delivering them back home full of mania inducing food additives. I can see her point.
Mike Oxlong wrote:That argument is all about one parent or the other, and not about what's best for the child. While the "other" parent might get the odd fun trip to buy a Happy Meal together, they miss out on all the other daily pleasures of raising a child.
Wow.legion wrote:Mind boggling stuff, it's wheels within wheels within wheels.
I asked my wife about the sole custody thing a while ago, basically in her opinion the basic idea is if one parent is going to do all the difficult stuff, why should the other parent have the option to be the "fun" parent, taking the kid to Mickey D's, showering them with presents, then delivering them back home full of mania inducing food additives. I can see her point.
legion wrote:Mind boggling stuff, it's wheels within wheels within wheels.
I asked my wife about the sole custody thing a while ago, basically in her opinion the basic idea is if one parent is going to do all the difficult stuff, why should the other parent have the option to be the "fun" parent, taking the kid to Mickey D's, showering them with presents, then delivering them back home full of mania inducing food additives. I can see her point.
Tsuru wrote:Wow.
I sincerely hope people who sincerely hold this view with regards to parenting never actually have kids.
Me me me me me it's all about me.
Tsuru wrote:Wow.
I sincerely hope people who sincerely hold this view with regards to parenting never actually have kids.
Me me me me me it's all about me.
Tsuru wrote:where the fuck did some of you people get the idea that kids from single parent homes will probably be A-OK?
legion wrote:
I asked my wife about the sole custody thing a while ago, basically in her opinion the basic idea is if one parent is going to do all the difficult stuff, why should the other parent have the option to be the "fun" parent, taking the kid to Mickey D's, showering them with presents, then delivering them back home full of mania inducing food additives. I can see her point.
legion wrote:I have two kids & a mortgage.
I think you are conflating random gaijin with the majority Japanese. The underlying assumption is not a single parent family but a family consisting of grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. The Japanese system does not give custody to one parent, it recognises the child as a member of one of the two families.
6810 wrote:Although Coligny's zeitgeisty/meme-ified spelling earns my ire, s/he has a sense of humour and a degree of self-awareness...
legion wrote:I think the idea of dual custody, even visitation rights is a bit idealistic, in reality how many people are going to maintain regular visits, especially in a city like Tokyo?
Coligny wrote:What kind of activities with kids can you have in Tokyo ? Not much park to throw a ball... beach for a swim or fishing...
Samurai_Jerk wrote:There are beaches within a 60 min train ride of central Tokyo and I see people playing ball with their kids all the time in parks or on quiet residential side streets. I also see people taking their kids to movie theaters, amusement parks, museums, galleries and major shrines and temples. Imagine how horrible it would be for those kids to live in a shitty underdeveloped rural area with no access to culture, the arts or fine food.
legion wrote:I'm sure there are dedicated dads out there who could prove me wrong, but I know there are those that prove me right.
legion wrote:I'm not saying it can't be done, I am saying to do it well would require a lot of work on both sides.
Kids generally enjoy activities which involve hanging out with other kids, and they are happy doing so wherever they are, town or country, I would guess the first job for the single parent with visitation is to maintain those relationships. However, I suspect that a return to bachelorhood would mean a return to an adult orientated world, and the kids would find themselves in a restaurant with a PSP for company while dad drinks beer, talks to his mates, and tries to flirt with the waitress.
I'm sure there are dedicated dads out there who could prove me wrong, but I know there are those that prove me right.
Sa_Race wrote:It's ok to be a crappy dad as we don't give them our precious mitochondria.
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